We often imagine life as nothing but a series of things that happen to us. It is hard to see just how it is we live in self-generated realities which continue to keep us from realizing there could be a new way, where we take responsibility for creating the life we live. Tapping deeply into the work of Milton Erickson, M.D., Stephen Wolinsky, Ph.D., and Carl Rogers, well take a journey into our interpersonal feedback loops that rules our lives unconsciously keeping us from new possibilities. BW AUC